7. Session
- A. We practiced in the previous session. I saw here that even if you say “I’m fine.” there are actually very repressed feelings somewhere inside. For this reason, even if we talk about it in the next session, I want to talk about being able to stay in the moment a little longer, be conscious and be mindful.
- B. In the face of a situation that puts us in trouble in our lives, we take many turns. Without knowing right or wrong… Our goal here is to determine the road map that is right for you and get you out of whichever turn you took that is causing you trouble. As we move along this path, I especially want to see what is under our control, and what isn’t. So, what can we control the most in life, what can we not?
- C. We pay greater prices to avoid boredom and reduce existing boredom. In life, the question of “What Don’t I Want?” leads us to pessimism, and the answers we give often increase our behavior of avoidance. Therefore, we must form the sentence of “What I want?”. Since this allows us to focus on what will make us happy, it allows us to turn to a more motivating approach. If we focus on what we don’t want in life, we’re away from a good life.
| I don’t want to get sick | I want to be healthy |
| I shouldn’t go out in cold weather. | I should exercise |
| I should wash my hands often. | I should have a balanced diet. |
| I should stay out of close contact. | I should be careful with my social relationships. |
As I mentioned, when we focus on what we don’t want, we tend to fixate more on avoidant and tiring behaviors. When we focus on what we want, we focus on behaviors that are more relevant to the actual goal that invigorates and motivates us.
- D. After the session, they were asked to think about which question they asked more on weekdays. It was said that it would be easier to remember, especially if they noted them down, and we would talk in more detail during the session.
8. Session
- A. Participants were asked to give feedback on what we spoke about last week. How was your week? Have you encountered a difficult situation during the week?
- B. The scoring of depression scale performed in the previous session was discussed. Especially high-scoring questions were discussed.
- C. The questions of “What is psychological endurance? What can be done to increase psychological endurance?” were asked and participants were asked to answer first. Then they answered. The importance of psychological endurance in our lives is explained by stating the characteristics of individuals who are psychologically strong.
- D. The first thing that helps us the most for psychological endurance is to recognize our strengths. Recognizing is the first step in change. So I would like you to think and note down your strengths this week. I would like you to analyze your strengths and discover what protects you in the most difficult times.